Have you thought about what you want for your business life, your relationships, your home life?
Earl and I have been married for almost 29 years. We dated for two years and then were engaged for another two years before we were married.
But, we nearly didn’t make it down the aisle. I had a vision of what I wanted for my life. He didn’t think in those terms.
I struggled to even bring up what my vision was for our future. I kept it bottled up inside for months. Until I felt I couldn’t keep it inside anymore.
One summer day, I asked him what he wanted for his future? This was his reply “What do you mean? I want to be alive.”
That was the extent of his plan for the future 🤦♀️ or at least from his reply, that’s how it felt to me.
Earl is a doer. He works out things with his mind and his hands. He builds, troubleshoots, and establishes foundations. If he says he will do it, he will. If you mess up, he loves you through it. That’s who he is, but when he was a 20-year old, I couldn’t see all that. I needed some words and a vision to align with mine.
So to me, that sounded like we didn’t want the same things because I had a list. My list was long.
I wanted to have enough money. Enough for me meant we could have nice clothes and drive reliable cars. I had examples of the types of vehicles I wanted in the future 😊, and yearly vacations I wanted to go on. All while wanting children, but how would we take care of them and a house and work. 😩
This was such a difficult concept for Earl and me to align on that we actually broke up for at least a week.
It was a looong week. But, thankfully, neither of us were giving up. I wanted specific things, a certain lifestyle.
I had to learn to express that, so I could measure it but also share it with others.
It turns out that after a few months, Earl and I were able to communicate our vision to each other. He indeed had a vision. I did, too and eventually was able to get it out of my head.
We were married that December. Earl, by that time, had become so comfortable with his vision and understood my vision well enough to say in one year I except this, within 3 years I expect this, and within 5 years, this is what I want for us. To this day, we call it our 1, 3, and 5 plan.
I have developed a goal-setting vision board process that will help you get your dreams out in a way that you will be able to see them and express them. You’ll be able to build a better future with those you love.
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