Have you ever had a time when you were scared? I mean, the fear set in, and you were so afraid you couldn’t move?
When I was around eight years old, on occasion, I would get super scared.
Once I had to spend the night with my aunt. Her house had some strange loud sounds. I just knew I was a goner. It would start up, and I’m scared stiff. Then it would kick-off. I would relax a bit. This happened over and over again.
I know now what it was, but when I was eight, I imagined a million things. All scary, none of them harmless. It was just their heating system.
My aunt is the sweetest person you will ever meet. I could have quickly called to her and told her I was scared. I could have said, “listen to this noise.”
But instead, I lay there motionless, unable to move. My chest was tight. I felt stiff, and I wanted to cry. I might have cried, but the monster would have heard me.
My eight-year-old self is not a lot different than my grown-up self.
I still get scared, and I find myself stuck. This week on the podcast, I reviewed the book by Jennifer Allwood, “Fear Is Not the Boss of You.”
Here are three takes always that meant a lot to me from her book, but it’s packed with a lot more.
If you read it, let me know what stands out to you.
First, when you are scared, you may feel stuck. Unable to move in any direction, especially the right one.
Just like me, as an eight-year-old, the solution might be simple.
Playing out all the scary scenarios is rarely a way out of fear.
Second, in another good suggestion, she says you may need to let some things go to move forward.
Maybe you are carrying around hurt from a friendship that is no longer working.
It’s not helping your future to be dwelling on the past.
Letting go will often free you for what greatness is waiting ahead for you.
Lastly, I appreciate how she points out that if you are waiting on confidence to do what you need to do, you may be waiting a while.
She suggests, and after hearing her point, I agree that we need courage rather than confidence.
Courage is what helps you do what you may feel scared to do.
Confidence only comes after we’ve been courageous enough to do what needs to be done.
So fear slips into our minds and hearts. We all feel fear more often than we care to talk about.
We don’t always talk about it because it feels so serious and yet so silly at the same time.
I hope you will decide “Fear is Not the Boss of You,” let go of what’s holding you back and act courageously on making your dreams come true!
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